Emotional immaturity is simple to define but more complicated to identify. Emotionally immature people are ruled by their emotions, they have no control over them, and most of their decisions are based on how they are feeling. It is dangerous to be in a relationship with this kind of person. In this blog, we will look at different ways in which emotional immaturity can manifest.
1) She cannot talk about Her Emotions
She is unable to verbalize how she feels in any depth. She will say she is angry, upset, or confused but will not be able to explain why she is feeling these emotions. The way she expresses her emotions is through her actions. She may ignore your messages for a couple of days, or after you try to have a deep conversation, she will ask if you could have it some other time, in a different situation.
2) She is a Runner
She does not know how to handle stress, and when a problem arises, she would rather break up than figure out how to fix the situation. She will say things like “I cannot see how we can fix this”. She has limited tools at her disposal to cope with stress. She’s not emotionally capable of handling the stressors in her life — although she could develop this capacity. She may be doing the best she can for her level of growth at that moment.
3) No Compromise
They are inflexible. Plans need to be made around her, and if they are not done in this way, she is unhappy. This inability to put herself in the shoes of someone can be tiresome and will sap your energy.
4) She Feels Entitled
If you’ve ever met a “Karen”, you likely recognize the signs of emotional immaturity. The set of behaviors our society has named “Karen” include weaponized privilege and a sense of entitlement. Their perception is that the world revolves around them, and when things don’t go their way, they assume it’s unfair.
5) She Demands Attention
Another common red flag a woman is emotionally immature is she demands attention rather than asking for it. She’s the partner who doesn’t want you to spend time with friends or family, the person who expects her friends to drop everything to be there for her at any hour. She doesn’t ask for what she wants. She demands and expects it.
6) She Takes Everything Personally
One of the main signs of emotional immaturity in a woman is she takes other people’s behaviors personally. The emotionally immature woman assumes every action and reaction is in direct response to her presence.
7) She Gets Defensive When Confronted
Emotional immaturity also comes out when she’s confronted about her behaviors. You’ll recognize her immediate defensiveness. Because she’s uncomfortable, she may try to direct the blame on you or find a way to shift the attention away from her feelings of humiliation, rejection, or disappointment. Because she hasn’t learned to articulate her feelings, it’s easier to react — badly — to any confrontation, no matter how gentle.
8) She Has a History of High Drama Relationships
You’ll notice that emotionally immature people don’t just have a history of bad relationships. They have a history of high drama. It’s not just in their romantic relationships either. Their family relationships and friendships are equally filled with conflict. Every story she recounts of drama shows evidence of her lack of emotional maturity. She hasn’t learned to manage conflict, communicate calmly, or address her feelings.
9) She Cannot Admit to Mistakes and Will Not Apologize for Them
Emotionally immature people have a hard time admitting they made a mistake — and an even harder time apologizing for their behavior. In fact, if you get an apology at all, it will be the kind that avoids responsibility and actually makes their behavior someone else’s fault.
10) She Holds a Grudge
It’s unsurprising that a woman who is emotionally immature is a champion grudge holder. She doesn’t yet see the value in forgiving, and she’s never seen the benefit of forgetting either. Instead, she is likely to bring up past conflicts in every single new one.
So, there you have it guys. You want to stay away from these people like the plague. Life is hard enough as it is, but to find yourself in a relationship with an emotionally immature person will systematically suck all the enjoyment out of life and leave you stressed out and brokenhearted.